Being

Being considerate, kind and thoughtful is an important part of any relationship. It is a way of showing respect and care for the other person, and can often be the difference between a good relationship and a great one.

When we are considerate, kind and thoughtful, we show that we are paying attention to the needs of the other person and that we are willing to make an effort to meet them. This can be as simple as remembering important dates, like birthdays and anniversaries, or providing emotional support when it is needed. Simple things like are you ok? Did you eat today? And how is your family doing? Being thoughtful can also mean taking the time to listen to and understand someone’s perspective, even if you don’t necessarily agree with them.

It is important to be considerate, kind and thoughtful because it creates a sense of trust and understanding between two people. When we are considerate, kind and thoughtful, it shows that we are taking the time to think about how our actions will affect the other person and that we value their feelings and opinions. This can help to strengthen a relationship, as it allows both people to feel seen, heard and appreciated.

Being considerate, kind and thoughtful is also important because it can help to create a more positive environment. When we are considerate, kind and thoughtful, we are more likely to act in ways that are respectful, which can help to create a more peaceful and harmonious atmosphere. This can be especially important in situations where there is conflict or disagreement, as it can help to diffuse the tension and create a more constructive dialogue.

With that being said as our good friend Alexander Smalls said: “Never be afraid to apologize, make amends, consider or admit where you were careless and/or possibly wrong, insensitive, selfish or self-serving. It does not make you look weak, it makes you strong, responsible and dependable as a human being.”

Many persons having difficulty being considerate, kind and thoughtful at times suffer from depression. And this illness filled with pride oftentimes don’t allow these individuals the capacity to express that which they truly would like to and would get paralyzed and go on the offensive as they don’t want to seem helpless. It is then that the other person needs to dig deeper and be more responsible to be the support mechanism the depressed person needs. This is not an easy task and one that you are seldom prepared for but the rewards last lifetimes. It is mandatory to be considerate, kind, and thoughtful even if it means being quiet. Here are some signs to look for when dealing with someone close to you that is depressed.
Signs to look for: 
• Changes in sleeping patterns (sleeping too much or too little)
• Changes in eating habits (eating too much or too little)
• Changes in energy levels (feeling more lethargic than usual)
• Loss of interest in activities or hobbies
• Increased feelings of hopelessness and despair
• Social withdrawal or isolation
• Loss of concentration and focus
• Unexplained physical pain or aches
• Thoughts of suicide or self-harm
Ways to help: 
• Listen without judgment and be understanding.
• Encourage them to talk about their feelings.
• Provide reassurance and support.
• Offer to help with everyday tasks.
• Suggest activities that can help boost their mood.
• Remind them that they are not alone and offer to connect them with a mental health professional.
• Help them find resources such as support groups or online forums.
• Spend quality time with them and remind them of the positive things in life.
• Let them know that you are there for them and that you care.
In conclusion, being considerate, kind and thoughtful is an important part of any relationship, it is allowing love to be the mainstay. It shows that we are paying attention to the needs of the other person and that we are willing to make an effort to meet them. It also helps to create a sense of trust and understanding between two people, as well as a more positive environment. So, the next time you are interacting with someone, take the time to be considerate, kind and thoughtful. It can make a big difference.
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